I'm always amused that my inspiration to write happens after most people are asleep. After 11p, when the world slows down and the incessant electronic buzz fades to a faint hum.
Watched an interesting TED talk recently on how people relate to each other and define themselves. The talk was actually a call to action by Tillett Wright, artist and activist, on the equal rights for LGBT campaigns. But it got me thinking. What if one of the root reasons people's relationships change / end is because they start using different boxes to both describe themselves and relate to others.
In defining self lately I've found most self motivators fall into two buckets - external ego and internal ego. External ego I see as the definition of self through the eyes of others, through the seeking of praise from an outside voice. Internal ego by contrast is the defining of self by sounding of the soul. External ego is doing a task suggested by someone else and then allowing the feedback to continue to define further actions. It's living vicariously through others. It's how people end up in a job they hate at 40. Internal ego is harder because you still get that external feedback but you have to weigh the response against what your soul values and decide to keep or discard the comments over and over and over. It's exhausting but the result is a life worth living.
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